Love languages in hard moments
In our darkest moments, what we need most is connection and stability. Dr. Gary Chapman's 5 Love Languages help us offer support in the way someone can truly feel it.
How can I support someone in a way they will truly feel?
Simple answer
Offer support in their love language: words, time, service, gifts or touch.
Deeper understanding
| Love language | Ways to show support |
|---|---|
| Words of affirmation | Encourage, appreciate and listen. Say what you value about them. |
| Quality time | Focused, uninterrupted time together. Silence your phone. |
| Acts of service | Take something off their plate, and follow through. |
| Gifts | A coffee, a meal or a small, meaningful memento. |
| Physical touch | A considerate hug, a hand on the shoulder, a high five. |
Be aware
When people feel hurt, upset or disconnected, they often react in the opposite way to their love language. Someone who loves quality time may isolate. Someone who values words may withdraw. Recognizing this helps us respond with patience instead of taking it personally, and offer support once they feel calm again.
Try this
Take the free quiz at 5lovelanguages.com, then ask the people closest to you about theirs. Knowing in advance makes support easier to give and receive.
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