Talk about suicide the way you would talk about cancer
Most people unknowingly use words that reinforce the very stigma they want to end. Intentional language recognizes what someone is facing without defining them by it.
What is the best way to talk about suicide?
Simple answer
Talk about suicide the same way you would talk about cancer.
Deeper understanding
About suicide
| Instead of | Try |
|---|---|
| He committed suicide. | He died from suicide. |
| She killed herself. She took her own life. | I lost her to suicide. Suicide took her from us. |
| We had two more suicides. | We lost two more people to suicide. |
| People who attempt suicide are attention seekers. | People who attempt suicide don't see any other option. |
| He was selfish. He took the easy way out. | He was in so much pain. He hated the idea of being a burden. |
| A permanent solution to a temporary problem. | She couldn't see how it could ever get better. |
About mental health
| Instead of | Try |
|---|---|
| What do you have to be depressed about? | No one chooses to feel this way. I'm sorry you're hurting. |
| Stop feeling sorry for yourself. | You're safe, we've got you. Let it out. |
| Don't do anything stupid. | I'm here for you. |
| She's acting crazy. She's a ticking time bomb. | She's having a difficult time and could use support. |
| He needs to just get over it. | He's fighting an internal battle that's hard for others to see. |
Casual jokes matter too. Phrases like "I'd rather die than…" can be deeply painful for someone who has lost a loved one or is having thoughts of suicide. The goal isn't perfection. It's awareness.
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If you or someone you know is thinking about suicide, call or text 988 (US) or text HOME to 741741. If someone is in immediate danger, call 911. More resources
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