Healing after a loss to suicide
Losing someone to suicide is a uniquely painful experience. It isn't time alone that heals our wounds; it's what we do with that time, and who we do it with. Healing is possible.
Is it possible to heal after losing someone to suicide?
Simple answer
Yes. It isn't time that heals our wounds; it's what we do with that time.
Deeper understanding
Navigating grief
Allow others to support you
You don't have to go through this alone. Lean on friends, family, or a support group for survivors of suicide loss.
Feel your emotions, and care for your body
There is no right or wrong way to feel, and you can feel many emotions at once. Rest, eat, and stay hydrated; grief takes a physical toll.
Embrace moments of joy
It's okay to laugh and smile again. Joy doesn't diminish your love or your loss.
Easing the "why"
"Why?" is one of the most common questions after a loss to suicide. We may never know every detail, but understanding can ease the search. People are at greatest risk when they experience extreme distress, isolation and a shift in belief at the same time. Suicide is not a choice; it is the tragic result of dire circumstances, and no one is to blame.
Grief doesn't follow a map
Grief rarely moves neatly from one stage to the next. Many people feel shock, disbelief, "what if" questions, and moments of peace all at once. Over time the waves become gentler, and memories begin to bring more love than pain.
A healing practice
Write a letter to the person you lost. Say everything that feels unsaid. Then remember them for how they lived: share their stories, the funny ones and the meaningful ones.
Jenny's book Growing Through Grief offers a gentle guide to healing after losing a loved one to suicide.
If you or someone you know is thinking about suicide, call or text 988 (US) or text HOME to 741741. If someone is in immediate danger, call 911. More resources
This resource is educational and not a substitute for medical or mental health care. © Thrive Education · jennythrasher.com