The SIT Method: how anyone can help
It's a common misconception that only trained professionals can support someone in crisis. What a person needs most in that moment is a sense of stability, meaningful connection, and to be reminded that they are loved. It starts by simply sitting with them.
How can I help someone in crisis?
Simple answer
SIT with them: slow down and create stability, communicate intentionally, and gently transition to next steps.
Deeper understanding
S: Slow down and create stability
Ground yourself first, so you can offer calm, intentional support. Recognize when you need support too, and who could be part of your team. The 9 elements of stability: love, awareness, trust, consistency, accountability, validation, intentional communication, intentional action and laughter.
I: Intentional communication
Go beyond listening and connect. You don't need to fix the problem. Acknowledge what they're facing, and gently remind them of their purpose, the impact they make, and the people (and pets) who love them. Avoid guilt and shame. Share laughter when it feels right.
T: Transition to next steps
Gently guide toward support and action: "How would you like to move forward?" "What would you like to do next?" "How can we follow up later?" A next step can be as simple as food, rest, or inviting someone else they trust into the conversation.
The best part: each step can be practiced every day, no crisis required. The more you use them in everyday conversations, the more natural they feel when it matters most.
Call 911 or go to the nearest hospital if the person is unable to stay conscious, has trouble breathing, has taken something harmful, has a life-threatening injury, or if anyone's life is in immediate danger. Stay present and remind them you're on the same team. For support any time, call or text 988.
Next: checking in and asking for support →
If you or someone you know is thinking about suicide, call or text 988 (US) or text HOME to 741741. If someone is in immediate danger, call 911. More resources
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